Am I depressed? It's about this guy. What's wrong with me?

I've never dated, been in a relationship, or had close guy friends. A part of me is terrified of relationships or just going out on a date with a guy who likes me and I like him back. I feel sick to my stomach. Loss of appetite. This guy said to my friend that he likes me, but ended up asking this other girl out. A part of me wants to be with a guy emotionally and physically. I want to be close to this guy. If I get hurt my whole life will crumble. Today I was holding back tears as I was singing. Alone. I never want to be with a guy. Even tough a part of me wants to be with them. I must not be distracted. Education comes first. Guys play mind games. They love you, and leave you. How can you trust them? I'm hard to love. There is this void between me and men. I'm afraid to be close to them that way. Terrified to have them hold me in their arms.



Any comments?Am I depressed? It's about this guy. What's wrong with me?
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1) you've never dated, been in a relationship, or had close guy friends.

A lot of this pain you're going through could be due to just anxiety about that fact, alone. And you need to stop stressin' about it, and breathe. One day, they will come.



2) Relationships are terrifying. Welcome to the club. But you gotta do it anyway, so you can get the experience. Suck it up and go. If a guy likes you, go for it. See where it takes you. If there is anything you are uncomfortable doing, including mere kissing, just say ';no';.



3) you feel sick to your stomach, and loss of appetite? Means you like somebody!! But the guy saying that to your friend, and then faking you out like that, girl forget him. He tryina play games, and you ain't got time for that. Maybe that's where HE is in HIS life, but that's not where YOU are in YOUR life, and if you ain't a game playin' girl, drop his a s s.



4) you wanna be with a guy emotionally and physically- yeah it's called puberty. But guess what, you gotta handle this in a real world with real people, who may or may not have your best interest at heart, in terms of your feelings. That's the real challenge. But you gotta manage to do it, and get on with your life.



5) Singing alone is therapeutic. Also singing on the phone to friends or with friends, writing in your diary, or hell sometimes just punching the wall feels good. You've got to do it. 'Cause whether you like it or not, things like in this case may not always go your way. And you got to start up some coping mechanisms for yourself. It's not that you don't need to have feeling. It's that you need to learn effective ways to deal, alone, or with others, or a combo of both.



6) Girl sometimes Education comes m***fuc*ing last, and I know how that feels. Let it come last sometimes. You can't be a smart braniac with a broken damn heart, right? You'd go all to your future job depressed and junk. You wanna straighten out your love life, or get your situations to where it doesn't -interfere- with your schoolwork. That's what you wanna do. I would say both are equally important. I wouldn't say one is over the other, or should be neglected.



7)Guys play mind games, damn right. Some don't. They're not so rare as you think, trust me. You may find that one and it could be ';one day';, or, it could be -tomorrow-!



8) You're probably not hard to love, you're just being hard on yourself. You met a bunch of a*holes and now you want to blame yourself. That's not the solution to the problem. If you feel you've really got some stuff to work on, sittin down and thinkin about it alone might not be enough. Ask a friend or two their opinion. Then again, if you don't want to, or don't really care, or wanna see if it was even really you, go exactly as you are into another relationship. If you get a kind and understanding guy, or even if you don't but you built up your own self-confidence, it won't matter what they say.



9) Don't be afraid to be close because of your prior love problems. You'll be shutting yourself off from any good guys, or any future love that might be coming your way! I told you, you never know! You may meet your -love-, tomorrow!! And if not tomorrow, definitely one day!Am I depressed? It's about this guy. What's wrong with me?
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no problem girl just keepin it real one sister to the next!

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go read a book on love!
dont let a guy make you depressed...thats rediculous
Oh honey I feel so badly for you. Something has caused this fear in you and for your own mental and emotional health you need to deal with this. Please seek a really good professional counselor and talk to someone you really trust that may guide you. If money is a factor, please contact your local health department for a referral.



I really want you to be happy and feel secure. Please get professional help. You will lose out on so much good in life if you allow this to continue.



God bless you real good!

How do You play HARD TO GET?

I need to know! every boy tells me that I am already, but luke once told me that he was too SCARED to ask me out. am I being

overly hard to get? I treat other guys just the same as I treat my

best friends. But when they flirt with me, I dont give in, and I dont

let them. But if I really really like the boy I do a bit.



am i doing it right? any tips on how to play hard to get?





xx RileyHow do You play HARD TO GET?
Ok, don't do something your comfortable with. And by playing hard to get, he could get the impression you don't like him and then move on.How do You play HARD TO GET?
Everyone will tell you not to play games, unfortunately sometimes you have to. If you can get to a bookstore get a book called The Rules.

How do i know if this guy likes me?

ive been talking to this guy for about two weeks. ive been friends with him for over a year, but i am really starting to like him. i think about him all day and cant wait to talk to him everyday. we hung out three days in a row. but i havent seen him for almost a week :/ i truely miss him. i want to hang out with him. but do guys like girls playing hard to get? how do i tell him we should hang out with out sounding desperate for him?? i really like this guy, like i've liked no other guy, i dont want to mess things upppHow do i know if this guy likes me?
tell him that. Don't play hard to get.

How do i talk to women that play hard to get?

Ithink it impossible like im in new york and im from detroit but they don't give me a chance im a real good looking guy brown skin 6'1 athlete deep voice hair with waves little light mustache and a smooth talker with a michigan accent and they just play hard to get i just want to know how do i go about that o yeah my mustache is trimmed im only 17 yearsHow do i talk to women that play hard to get?
you should try to talk to them onlineHow do i talk to women that play hard to get?
DON'T or just talk to them about silly stuff for about three days in a row and then ignore them for 5 weeks.



She will wonder why you just stopped talking to her.

(this only works on a person you see everyday or quit a bit.)
i'm only 12 and i bagged a busload of newyork hoochies
Women who play hard-to-get are arrogant and narcissistic; they'll expect the relationship to be all about them. Don't play it with them. In fact, if their goal is to play hard-to-get with you, and you don't pursue, guess what? YOU WIN.
Maybe they are not playing hard to get,maybe they are hard to get.

How do you stay loose and play your game when your nervous?

I have to play a big match tomorrow and just thinking about it when I was playing this morning made me extremely tight. I've never played the guy I'm playing tomorrow, but I heard he's in good shape, is steady, but has no real weapons. I'm confident if I play the way I always play I'll win, but when I get nervous or don't get any rhythm I get extremely tight and miss everything. Its like I'm a robot and I can't swing freely.



When I'm playing someone who hits hard and deep and keeps me running I get into a rhythm and play well, but with no pace shots I try to guide the ball and I can't play. Should I try to move my feet, focus on the stroke, or what?How do you stay loose and play your game when your nervous?
Try not to think about it. Thinking is the enemy, just play. Watch some pro tennis matches live or replayed. It helps to watch good players play. You also have to realize that even the pros make mistakes and that your goal is to go out there, play your game, and have fun. I like reading books like ';Winning Ugly'; by Brad Gilbert to relax and refresh my memory on some good tips. Its kinda like having a coach in my back pocket. Try to warm up early, get a good breakfast in, and a night's rest. Try not to worry. Be confident. You'll do fine. Good luck!How do you stay loose and play your game when your nervous?
That's a question that you are going to have to answer yourself. Each person has a different way of keeping loose. I have a problem with that myself. The best way is just to have fun, imagine that you are playing your buddy.
Just keep your head in the game. Don't let your concentration slip at any moment. Always keep your mind on the goal. You will never lose if you concentratee.

Does this guy fancy me or not?

Does this fancy me or just playing me?



This guy right, I told him on 2 drunken occasions i like him, lol one time saying hey u and me shud do missionary style back in june at a party.

we get along really well, constant talking teasing but thing is i do like him alot...but with me the strategy has changed i dnt ask that guy out i wait for him to ask me



i can wait a whole yr and he dnt...cos if i ask him its a win loose situation, i cud get rejected, however if he asks me out then i know its a win win cos i like him to to you see.

i tease him, flirt with him always shakes me hand or pokes at me, i play hard to get.



On wednesday outta the blue he comes to the till next to me, both work at a supermarket and goes hey kira cheer up. i sed i am, im thinking, he then takes the mick how i was saying it

and goes wot r u thinking bout, i go stuff, then he teased with me alot more, then suddenly kept saying hey kiran open your eyes again twice. He then scanned this item. a blouse and shows it to me and goes this looks nice on yu, got one of them, i sed yeh, i wear em with a pencil skirt then carried on talking. Then he said something else like hey kiran u know they gonna start taking pictures of you and me

from the camera, then said hey kiran, they gonna take picture of you cos ur the best look girl in the store, then i said wot they gnna take a picture of ur backside cos u ave a sexy back

then the lady customer i was serving goes, i think he likes youuuuuuuuu, i sed naaa, lol and laughed and she goes cos ur pretty





oh yeh, i told him how me and my friend sharon gnna go xmas shopping, he goes oh kiran thanks for inviting me i thort u n me were a team, i said yehh...oh u can come you know, he goes yeh ok jus ring me yeh, he then goes hey kira, open your eyes



then after i finished my shift, i went upstairs to check the Chelsea FC football score, hes sitting there eating his pasta, lies how chelsea are loosing getting me riled up till i found he was jokin, then chatted more, he then goes hey kiran u know i tease you alot cos u went a **** uni, i sed oh i thort u teased me cos im vunerable, he says do ppl tease you n i sed yeh, he said u need counselling, here come and sit down

and talk i go wot...with an alcoholic..I just tease around how he's a drinker lol, he chokes on his food with laughter then goes oh ur finished, i sed gnna walk it home at 9pm...my parents were out so i walked it home wednesday, and i go why u concerned for my saftey, he goes yeh I am, lol then last words he sed kiran open your eyes



i briefly bumped into him today he did say open your eyes, i sed in return hey maybe u shud open ur eyes. I mean he keeps saying open your eyes all the time....what does this mean? What does all of it mean?Does this guy fancy me or not?
.Open your eyes means exactly that.He's saying your not seeing what is before your eyes.He wants you to be available.Let him know where you'll be at the weekend.(Don't ask him out).Bet he'll be there tooDoes this guy fancy me or not?
Wow that was a lotta dialogue. And that whole ';open ur eyes thing'; I don't got a clue wat the heck he's talkin' 'bout, but I know he likes U. He %26lt;3 U!
It seems like he does fancy you, I mean, he says a lot of things that are quite romantic. Or, maybe he's just quoting from the movie Titanic. They say Open your eyes in that movie too. I hope you get him.

Hard to get?

Over the summer i became best friends with this guy - and it turned out that he really liked me... Once I started to like him back, and things got a little more serious, it seemes like he started to like me less. One of my good friends told me I should play hard-to-get because guys want what they can't have, and that's why he really liked me at first - cuz he didn't have me. I just wish he would aknowledge me more as someone he's ';dating'; than just ';Friends with benifits'; cuz that's pretty much how it is. I know i shouldn't let this happen, and I may sound naive, but theres just something about this guy that keeps me comming back - I'm head over heals in love with him, and I can't help it. He's my best friend - What do I do?Hard to get?
I'll tell you what the problem is. When you two started messing around, in your mind, you thought this was going to become something. Two people this close don't mess around to become ';Friends with Benefits,'; right? wrong. However, in his mind, he was really thinking ';Friends with Benefits.'; No commitment. No strings attached. You came on strong because you believed he would become more than a friend and this was something great. But when he saw that you really liked him, it scared him b/c he wasn't thinking ';relationship'; and you were. I know b/c I was there too one time. And honestly, this isn't going to go anywhere and your friendship, unfortunately, is over. You can either settle for being his booty call or you can just leave him alone. If you don't leave him alone, then believe me when I tell you, that you will be hurt bad in the long run. If your in love with him now, imagine how you'll feel later.Hard to get?
Your friend is right. You made it too easy for him and now hes losing interest. Its up to you to take it a step back.

But my guess is, there isnt anything you can do at this point to turn him around.
FROM YOUR QUESTION, IT SEEMS HE ALREADY GOT YOU. Is there still something he hadn't got? You may have been lax in giving those ';benifits';.
Men always like the chase, because if it's too easy than they think you are easy. But, if you play too hard to get they might think it's over or not worth their time because it is out of their reach. My advice is to just be yourself, don't make things so complicated.If he is your friend just talk to him about it. And stand up for yourself don't give him everything he wants, you have wants too.
like you said- people want what they cant have- looks like you cant have him! lol! ok seriously- just ask him whats up but dont sound over eager. he's your best friend right? so you should be able to talk to him about anything. at the same time play hard to get, cuz sometimes lonleiness makes the heart grow fonder- but also keep in mind the out of sight- out of mind rule- distance yourself, but not too much. could it also be that your expecting too much from him?
you know whats keeping you coming back....his nonchalant attitude...he's knows you like him so for him the thrill of the chase is gone...i can't tell you what to do but i know what i would do...i would back off a bit and act as if i didnt care...cause the more you seem to be hung up over him the more he's going to treat you like this...dnt you know when you stop caring...that's when they start *good luck*

Is this guy playing games too? Need help please. Little bit long...?

I met this one guy in this play at college a few months ago. He started flirting and everything. Of course, he would make sexual jokes and such. But this other guy liked me (and I liked that guy at the time too), and this guy would always say that he was jealous. He said it in a light tone, but with a slight seriousness to it. When he would hug me or I would hug him, he would let me lay my head on his chest and hold me around me middle/lower back. Anyway, at the cast party. He kept following me, and he would stand behind me and kiss/nibble my shoulder, kiss my head/hair, pick me up (literally). He was joking around and calling me a tease (I'm just not used to that attention, so I don't know how to behave). He asked for my number. He asked for my number. A little while later he text me saying ';You're hott';. He would offer to drive me home as well. He wanted me to tell him about myself and would put his hands on top of mine.



Well, a few nights ago, he was in philly for a college theatre thing, and I had been on video chat with some of my peeps. He was there. The next night I got a voicemail from him (making sexual jokes again) and saying to call me. I didn't get that message until 3 days later. So I called him, and he sounded happy but kind of nervous. We talked about different stuff.



The thing is, today at rehearsal, this one girl, who went with him to ACTF (college theatre thing) was talking about workshops they had to do and how it was intense and how the guy who called me almost kissed her in a scene. But then they were laughing about how he almost kissed this guy too (which probably isn't a lie cause he has confessed to kissing other guys. Just not actually wanting to be with them). He's told me before that he doesn't cheat (it's hard to believe people though).



So I'm just wondering. Do you think this guy is just stringing me along? Cause I'm getting tired of these mind games that guys (or women) play. Is it possible to flirt with someone else and really and truly have a deeper interest in someone else? And how do you know? How do you think he's feeling?



Thanks!Is this guy playing games too? Need help please. Little bit long...?
Think this way, if you have a crush, would you flirt with other people too? I would not, I know, unless I was just playing around. Guys have a weird personality, and they say women are hard to understand. Battle of the sexes. But then it's not really about guys or girls, it's about person to person.

Rest apart, you're the better judge and only you can make the right decision, and remember no decision is wrong since you always learn something from both good and bad decisions. Good luck, and take it light hun :)

How to talk women that play hard to get?

Ithink it impossible like im in new york and im from detroit but they don't give me a chance im a real good looking guy brown skin 6'1 athlete deep voice hair with waves mustache and a smooth talker with a michigan accent and they just play hard to get i just want to know how do i go about thatHow to talk women that play hard to get?
try shaving the mustache...



Having a mustache can put 10 years on your current age. I don't know how old you are, but many younger women aren't attracted to that. Its old-looking and possibly reminds them of their father or grandpa.

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How do you like a girl to play hard to get?

i have been dating a guy for two weeks now. i just noticed how easy(easy as in im afraid there is no mystery like i have told him too much. not easy as in ill sleep with him) and predictable i am. i am afraid he will loose interest. any tips? thanks in advance :)How do you like a girl to play hard to get?
I hate when girls play hard to get unless its in a sensual, seductive way...otherwise come straight upHow do you like a girl to play hard to get?
Well if you are playing the hard to get game, you will probably finish the game yourself. Either be with the guy or be without.

There is only 2 choices, so pick one and be done with it.

It's hard to admit, but i am easy...?

i've always had a hard time with guys. i feel like i try way to hard just to get one guy to notice me. how do you play hard to get with someone that already knows you're easy? i wanna be able to start over new, and show guys that think im 'hott' that im not all about sex, and i just honestly, don't get how to do that, how do i get a guy to want more?It's hard to admit, but i am easy...?
I deal with alot of relationships so let me start out by saying that the past is the past.


If you honestly want to make a change then dont believe yourself ';easy'; just because sex was an enjoyment or done frequently. Dont judge youself as easy but something more and that will help with moving to the next step.


You need to show what else you like to do and make a time limit before you start to get more active with a guy. This will give you two time to figure out more about one another (its not fool proof but it works).


If a guy is willing to leave you bcuz you have expectations and goals for yourself then honestly that guy wasnt looking at you...only physical you.It's hard to admit, but i am easy...?
dont dress slutty, make them workfor a kiss. then tell them to stop if they move fast. no sex for at least the first month.
You should play hard to get since if guys think your easy to get then they won't want to get you any more since guys like girls who are hard to get.
you dont get a guy to want more you have to find one who does try dateing a guy who doesnt fit one of the old regulars
I don't know much and probably an answer from a guy isn't that useful to you but i would say try talking to the guy your dating about that or if you have a friend that is a guy tell him your not someone who is just about sex and just don't act like it and you'll be fine.





Hope i helped
Well, for starters try making little rulse for urself like ';No kissing on our first date,'; then hell really want to kiss, a better one ';no sex until we're dating for at least a year'; just try it. If u really want to change, than do!
It's just the way you carry yourself. My best friend is a really cute girl but she has so much confidence and has a really outgoing personality. She gives off really good energy. Guys are just mystified by her because she's nice to everyone and doesn't act desperate to make guys notice her. She has a calm self assured vibe that just attracts guys. I think guys want to figure her out and they go up and try to ger HER to notice THEM. So she has a gaggle of guys who like her but she never puts them down or anything. She has respect for herself and knows her boundries, but respects guys as well.
Well, once your reputation is out that way it is going to be really hard to get that back. But to help you, there really isnt any specific way to play hard to get. you just got to kind of put on a show. like if your with somebody and they start talking crap just act like you dont care. Let other guys that you talk to know about your past and how you want to change. you know they are using you trust me because once you see the player game you'll have it down packed.. Just got to keep your eyes open and your legs closed. just mentally say to your self what goal you want to acheive. if you need more help hit me back. lol =]





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Just be flirty with him but don't over due it. Make him chase after you, like don't cling to him. Act down to earth, a girl he'd want to get to know more about. If you want him to think your not all about sex than don't be all about sex. Just be yourself, and make him wanna make you his.








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Well. The bonus is you're attractive, too. But that's not going to help you in the easy department. Maybe you're just horny? There't (despite what others say) absolutely nothing wrong with satisfying your carnel needs. Maybe that's just what you're doing. You need sex, so you're havings sex.... I don't know - I'm not your psychaitrist, but I would say that you're probably being a little hard on yourself (no pun intended). Just go with the flow. I have know girls who were called ';sluts'; their entire youth and it wasn't true at all, they just wanted to make sexual contact faster than the average girl so the average girl called them a slut, and where I come from that makes the average girl a *********. So, you are just you. Take the necessary precautions, do the right things, and be careful. Don't get taken advantage of, don't get raped. And if something like that DOES happen, you have the same rights as all the girls who'd say that ';she's a slut and she deserved it';. You have the right to an investigation by the police, you have the right to counseling, and the right to know that it wasn't your fault it a guy takes it too far. So just because you may be more sexually active? PHUCK all those other girls. -john in Iowa
Hey there, first off, I believe congratulations are in order. You have just reached a stage that many people, both girls and guys, never get past. Sometimes, it seems as if all relationships boil down to is making yourself as ';hot'; as possible and finding as ';hot'; a partner as possible. The logic being that sex must be great with a hot person, and thus a great relationship it must be.





However, if you now know that you are searching for more, the last place you are going to find it is in a place where people don't want more. And unfortunately, it sounds like the guys you are trying to get to notice you as something special don't want to see more than a pair of open legs. So the sad news is, if people don't want to see more, you are not going to be able to get them to see more with you.





The question for you now becomes: ';What do you want more?';


a) I want this guy to like me, even if it is just for sex.


In this case, you already know what to do. From the sounds of it, you don't want this anymore though.





b) I am going to find the guy who I can have EVERYTHING with.


In that case, you have to be willing to give everything yourself. You have already seen firsthand that putting out gets people who want to take you up on just that. If you want something more and you want to get someone else to share more with, you yourself need to be someone that that type of person would want.





I know you are looking more for how to make a guy who is now with you for sex want more with you, but unfortunately, if he is only there for the easy sex in the first place, you are not going to get anything more out of him.


Playing hard to get won't solve anything. You are better off gently letting people know you are no longer looking for a little nookie, but if a guy does want more, give him a genuine, sincere chance.





There is sooo much to be said on this that there is no way it can fit into a Yahoo Answers reply ;-) But, first, I believe you need to clarify for yourself what is more important to you. After you have made this decision, you can ask more questions to guide you. Good luck to you, whichever path you pick.

After play fighting with a guy, I masturbated to it, am I gay?

In the fight I was completely dominated. There was a point when he had me in a headlock and while trying to get out I became aware of his really hard abs and strong arms. He just kept squeezing and soon I passed out. Later that night I masturbated to the events and felt really good. I never saw myself as gay and I stick to the straight porns although sometimes I remember how great his body felt. what do you guys think?



cheersAfter play fighting with a guy, I masturbated to it, am I gay?
Sounds like someone hit a homoerotic streak.After play fighting with a guy, I masturbated to it, am I gay?
congratulation,

you are one of them.
Not sure what your sexual orientation is, but it sure sounds to me like you like being dominated. Try out fantasizing about gay sex, and maybe some Dominance/submission stuff, as well as gay D/s, and see what's best for you
Well, you could be bi, or gay, or even just bi-curious. Just go with what you think feels right, only you can decide what you are.
You're human. You got aroused. I mean it's not new news haha. If you really feel you might have different feelings when it comes to guys then maybe try looking at Gay porn to see if you really become aroused? Nothing too hardcore obviously. Try slowly introducing the curiosity to yourself and go with whatever you're heart...or your penis, tells you haha. Read more about sexuality and you'll figure it out.
I think you have to ask yourself if you have ever felt anything like that about a female. From what you have described here I would have to say that you are at least bisexual. But, if you don't have the same kind of sexual intensity toward females then you might want to start the acceptance process. And, it is a process.



Obviously its going to be a rough journey, as it is for most of us. Try to avoid self hating thoughts. You may try to go through the process of trying to change and avoid it for a while longer but...

you like guys Tom. Get online and find out some gay friendly hangouts in your area and meet some people you can talk to face to face. You will get through this a lot easier with someone to talk to that knows what you are going through.
Possibly bi, possibly submissive. Or it could just be a really exciting memory. But I'd bet on submissive.
I don't think it's as unusual as you might think. Your profile says you're 17, and I believe if you were truly gay or bisexual, you would have had feelings MUCH earlier than now. Straight and gay can be very constricting categories, some people think they aren't straight if they have thoughts or desires about the same gender, but that's ridiculous. I would say that you are straight as long as your sexual thoughts about men don't overwhelm your sexual and romantic desires for women.



During the Kinsey studies, almost nobody registered as a 0 or 6 (COMPLETELY gay or straight). Most healthy, happy straight men are a 1 or 2 (with 3 being equally homosexual and heterosexual), proving we're all to some extent bisexual.



I think you're probably straight, but your same-sex and domination/submission desires are worth pursuing so that you can learn what you enjoy sexually.



Watch Kinsey. It's a great movie.

Question for girls that play or have played ';hard to get';?

k, let's imagine the guy figures it out. that ur playing that game with him. how would u feel if u saved urself 4 him believing this game will work, but suddenly u receive a message ';playing hard to get, eh? game over.';?Question for girls that play or have played ';hard to get';?
Maybe its not a game.......Question for girls that play or have played ';hard to get';?
I would forget about that asshole

How can i play hard to get even tho we're gonna go on a date soon?

Heyy im a 16 yr old girl in high school and ive never had a boyfriend. Havent really talked with a guy who liked me back so im kinda new to this. I kinda like him, and we might go on a date for his birthday soon, but i know that its important so still b kinda hard to get. How can i do this, i mean we're on a date. Can i? How?

thankssHow can i play hard to get even tho we're gonna go on a date soon?
Hard to get's not the only approach. Some guys will like you more if they know you like them. It's important to let him know somehow that you do. If you want to still try it, you can, but it might backfire, so be prepared for that. Just don't act too interested and you'll be all right. It's okay to like someone. It's not okay to be crazy about them (so soon, at least).How can i play hard to get even tho we're gonna go on a date soon?
don't try too hard...laugh at his jokes to sound interested, but not desperately. When you tell a story, which you most likely will, do not make it too detailed.(women like to do that)...Keep it simple, as that is what men are...simple. Honestly, be who you are and if he doesn't like that person, why like him? Most likely you wont marry the guy so no point wasting your time trying to figure out how to act when your have your very own personality.:).

Good luck on your date......oh and one more thing; You can tell you are trying too hard by the way you dress for it. Don't dress too promiscuously. Don't reveal too much of yourself and don't wear too much makeup!
Don't play hard to get. Be yourself and have fun! If you want to add a little spice (which is the intent of playing hard to get--- keeping the excitement of the chase) don't be afraid to do a little light-heated teasing and keep up the witty conversation. You want him excited and on his toes.
Well, you're already on a date. But if you want to keep playing hard to get, don't kiss him, but don't make him think you don't like him. If he tries to kiss you, just say that you don't kiss on the first date, smile and give him a hug, then go your separate ways.
im sorry why do you think you have to play hard to get???? ----- hard to get = not interested so dont play games it just makes us crazy as we have enough trouble determining if you are interested in the first place and then to play games sheeeeesh
are you on a date right now? lol well first off he likes you and you like him so thats good but dont get all clingy and stuff. dont constantly call him now. hae you seen that movie ';the ugly truth'; you should...it may help. and its funny too :)
dont play hard to get boys dont like that...honest ,

and be yourself dont play hard to get but dont be easy have a good time and take it slowly. no rush. and if he wants to see you on his birthday he likes you :)
bad idea. no games. just go out on the date and have fun
If you try, he'll lose interest, see you as a waste of time, and drop you. Is that really what you want? It doesn't work, guys find it a turn off.
Dont play hard to get on the date or he might think your not interested

But until the date

just like wait longer to text/i.m him with a reply only start a convo every now %26amp; then
Don't play games first of all. If you don't want to seem real eager to be with him, then don't kiss on your first date.

What is the Best game plan when a girl is playing hard to get?

I really like a girl. I know she likes me, but she likes attention from a lot of guys. She is playing hard to get so she doesn't seem easy. I am usually very blunt, honest, and genuine about how I feel, but I cannot do that with this situation, I want to play the game too so that we get to know each other slower and it stays interesting and stimulating. There is a delicate balance for how much interest I show in her, like how much i call/text her and what I say, etc. Any girls have esoteric advice for me about how I should play this game appropriately? What is the Best game plan when a girl is playing hard to get?
Don't go to women, numbnuts, you go to PLAYERS. Women give soft hearted and emotional answers based solely upon what they would do in the situation. It's not the reality of what this woman would do, because trust me, women can't understand other women any more than men can understand women.



Listen up son, I'll give you the game:



This chick likes attention from other guys, you say? That means you have to stand out by NOT paying her attention. You have to show her that you aren't all that impressed by her (not in a rude way) but in a way that says ';I got my life going for me, and I'm indifferent to whether you are in it or not.'; While everyone else fawns over her. This means you don't smother, you don't chase. You in fact, let her catch you looking at OTHER girls. (But, don't approach other girls, it's not fair to them. Don't start what you don't want to finish.)



These actions, will get her wondering, why isn't he paying attention to me? Since she's an attention whore, she'll automatically want to get you back in the fold with the rest of the suckers. This is where YOU take control and play hard to get. When she starts coming to you, kick it for a minute, and then say you gotta roll out, got some stuff up. Don't give ANY sign of interest AT ALL. It will drive her crazy. She will start requesting your time (Phone number, plans, etc... putting herself where you are.) Inside she will be drawn to you.



Now, once you have her at a fever pitch, begin mildly flirting, but then pulling back. Go hot and cold, hot and cold. Remember, this is a GAME. It will drive her even wilder and will cause her to ignore the others and focus on you. She'll wonder what's up with you, why can't she get you to march to her drum. Keep it up, until SHE ASKS YOU out, or CONFESSES to you.



Then, you accept it, but don't get overly excited. Remain cool, as though if she left any minute, you would not care in the slightest. You always have to be the one in control, you always have to be the challenge with an attention whore. The most difficult part is the keeping her, by alternating times of spontaneous action, romance, distance, and aloofness. All over her, and then when she thinks she has you, away.



Keep doing this, until you win her heart through the times of romance, and the thought of you being gone (as she will feel in your times of being aloof) will drive her crazy. She will never leave.



This isn't as easy as it sounds, and it takes a long time, and one mistake will cause it all to fall apart, but if you have the skill and confidence, you can make it happen.



P.S.: Don't do this to non-attention whores and good women. Use my teaching with care, young paduan. What is the Best game plan when a girl is playing hard to get?
move on to the next girl
stop paying as much attention to her, play that same game... shes gonna realize that she might loose you and turn your way
Constantly tease her, make fun of her, and be a raging asshole to her, because its the only thing thats going to distinguish you from all the other guys she's getting attention from.



Girls like this are so easy it makes me laugh, most guys just don't know how to play their game.



The real issue is that she has self esteem issues and by being a dick to her, making fun of her, etc. your making her want to prove to you that she's as awesome as she thinks she is.
okay when a girl is doing this they want to know if you really like them and won't give up and head towards a new girl. Simple game rule: Don't give up. Stay in the game. The game will eventually be over and she'll be yours(:



Also during this game don't play hard to get. That's her job. Do things that show her your not giving up on her.



I hope you win(: Good luck
Chase after her !!!

text her once every 2days and joke around with her





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Tell Her: '; It's a little too soon for you to be playing hard to get, and you JUST might lose me this way. So stop acting like a 10 year old girl and come give me a hug before I change my mind about you'; :D



Ofcorce, try to keep a straight face.




chase chase chase. thats what they want. not too much though. dont be a weirdo.


If she's playing hard to get, that means, she's hard to get. Why waste the resources, when you could find a girl that wants you.



After years of wasting time, money and emotional effort on these PT's I decided no sex on the first date,no second date. This removed a lot of frustration from my life.



Game playing is counterproductive in relationships.




The best thing to do is let her go. Just stop caring. Cause think about it; you play the game and you get her... then what? It will never end. Girls like this are NEVER happy, and they will just draw you in.



Plus, if you stop caring, one of two things will happen. You might drive her nuts enough that she starts wanting you, and you get her (but I wouldn't stay around long). Or, she'll just stop caring about you too, cause you aren't giving her what she wants, and she can get it from anyone else. Either way, you won't be playing her game, which is what's important.
Well, I'm a girl and I did play hard to get with the guy I liked. I knew he liked me back so I played hard to get. See, the thing is, when a girl plays hard to get she's just trying to get your attention and to see if you'll chase after her. Like a test to see if you really think she's worth it. The guy I liked and I ended up being a couple and we're still together.



I wish you the best luck (:

Child Protective Services about my children?

I am 24 and have 2 amazing little angels. 3 (boy) and 7 (girl) who are my ENTIRE world. Growing up I lived in a terrible situation, my parents drank ALOT and did stupid things and my dad was in jail alot. I ended up getting pregnant at 16. I was with the guy for Around 5 years. He cheated and we split up, we were on great talking terms becuase of our daughter. I was moved on, engaged and had my son with my fiance. When I was 21, I was raped, It caused major strain in our relationship because I was always depressed. I just couldn't be with him anymore, he was selfish and only thinking of him. He didn't take it to well and physically abused me. We had a home together and I couldn't take it, so my best friend said she would help me out and we got an apartment together until I got back on my feet. She stayed at the apartment for one month and then split leaving me with all the bills and I couldn't afford it so the only choice I had was to move me and my kids back home, which was very hard for me to do because I resent how horrible they made life for me and I made sure I would never be like that to my children. But I did move back home, and as expected my mom stayed pretty much a drunk. We had our bad days but I had no other options. During some of her drunken nights she would get get beligerant and mad because she didn't want my boyfriend at the time there or I would hide her beer because she takes prescription pills, and she would call the cops drunk telling them I am trying to beat her and other ridiculous thing. I never leave my children alone with her, I am home 24/7 to take care of my son and work as a caregiver for my mom. Things have been ok though now. Somewhat, my daughter has tourettes and see a psychiatrist and counselor on a regular basis and my some is just as happy as can be. A few days ago we were playing outside and he tripped and a stick cut a 2 inch gash in him so he needed a few stitches. Here we are a few days later, cps shows up. With allegations from someone that I neglect my babies. That our our home is full of roaches and rats (which is completely untrue as the cps worker saw) and so many other ridiculous allegations. They tried to talk to my 3 year old but he was scared. Tomorrow morning he has to speak with my 7 year old. I am a wreck! I have no criminal background, not even a ticket. Never touched a drug in my life, drinking about once every every 3-4 mths since I have kidney problems. My children love me. I've never even spank my children. I am terrified the worst is going to happen. I cant imagine losing my kids, how likely is it that they could actually take my world away from me? It hurts me so badly that my ex would do something like this to me and the kids out of spite. What can I do? How do I go about handling this. I have never had anything like this before in my life and I dont know what to expect.Child Protective Services about my children?
Just be as transparent as possible and cooperative, it will be readily apparent there is nothing to warrant the call - and next time they will have less credence then they did this time.Child Protective Services about my children?
If you haven't done anything wrong, nothing will come of it. They will look, see that you have done no wrong, and leave. Worst case that I can think of is that they ask you to move out because of unsafe living conditions, because of your mother drinking.
as long as your kids are healthy and being cared for and your home is not a wreck -- you've got nothing to worry about. I've never had to deal with CPS, but if you've got nothing to hide then they'll see that -- they've got real problems to deal with. you're not going to lose your children. kids get stitches and they get hurt, but that doesn't mean you're negligent or abusive. tell your daughter not to be scared (poor thing, I'm sorry you all have to go through this) and the whole mess will be sorted out soon. be cooperative, they're just doing their job. think of it this way -- some people actually do live in horrid conditions and some kids do get abused, so the fact that they take allegations seriously speaks highly of them. YOU don't have to worry, but it is good that that service exists to help children who really do need help. good luck and I'm sorry. chin up, momma.
';how likely is it that they could actually take my world away from me?';





Probably not very, but just how bad is the scene with your mother? It doesn't sound like a very good home for your children.





If you went from one abusive home to another and then back to the first -- and feel that ';I had no other options';-- you do have difficulties; use this as an opportunity to ask for help, see if they can't do something useful for you. Ask for referrals to help with counseling, job placement services, housing assistance.
When I was in labor (with no epidural mind you seeing as I am deathly afraid of needles) a nurse called CPS and reported that I was suicidal (I was telling my friend I just wanted to die..I was in pain!), that I was anorexic and didn't care for my unborn child (I only gained 17 pounds during my pregnancy but my daughter was 8 lbs!) and that I didn't want my daughter (I said ';I change my mind, I don't want this';- meaning labor) Also that I neglected my daughter because I didn't want to hold her when she was born (I tried and felt my arms literally give out from under me I was so exhausted...I was so afraid I would drop her!)





They still had to do an all out investigation and I was so worried they wouldn't even let me go home with my daughter...they overturned over aspect of my life and home, looking for anything. After a few weeks they couldn't find anything at all and closed the case....it was a few weeks of hell and fear (even thou I did nothing wrong) but in the end the truth came out...











Don't worry...if you have nothing to hide then they will find nothing. They won't give up till they over turn everything but in the end the truth will come out!!!





Cooperate with them FULLY and answer ANY and ALL questions and you will be fine..
I completely agree with the poster who told you to use this as an opportunity to get help. You need to step back and look at your situation. I know you feel that you have no options. You are young, likely uneducated, and probably a little depressed about your life, all which unmotivated you and makes you feel as if you have no choice. Honey, you do have choices. CPS doesn't *want* to take your kids. If anything they are looking for reasons to keep your kids with you. The last thing they want is another ';case'; to have to look in to, another home to find for these kids. If things are like you say, then losing your kids is the last of your worries. What you need to focus on is LEAVING. You and your mom's relationship is poison to you and your kids. You need to get housing assistance, government assisted daycare, use public transportation to find work, use TANF, use food stamps, WIC, coupons, food banks. There are resources, it just seems like there is not. Do you have a diploma? A GED? did you know that if you sign up for classes you can get a grant, and actually get a large refund of money? Enough to even possibly get you a car or buy things for your kids? The point is that there are options. Many of them, and it may be scary, but the only way out is to move forward and not look back. You won't lose your babies, but you need to lose the situation you are in. Good luck!
In my experience (I had to deal with CPS a few times when I was a kid), they don't want to tear families apart. They want you to keep your children. They will only remove the children if they find evidence of neglect or abuse or unsafe living conditions. If they have any concerns, they might want to check in on you, or provide you with resources.





Believe it or not, the CPS gets many bogus calls from vindictive exes or ';concerned'; neighbors. I had them called on me once because my neighbors didn't like that my children don't attend church. That was it. They spoke with me for about an hour, and then left. Never heard from them again. Unfortunately, because of false calls, that they HAVE to investigate, many children who really are abused slip through the cracks.
Well, guess what, your not alone! All over the USA children are being taken from GOOD PARENTS! If you have been reading on line you must know that by now!


There is a huge cash flow and John Hopkins who works along side Obama. Look it up and see what is going on for yourself.


Fyi... Here is a heads up! http://www.ripoffreport.com/child-protective-services/arizona-child-protec/arizona-child-protective-servi-264pm.htm Every state... IN EVERY STATE GOOD PARENTS ARE LOOSING THEIR CHILDREN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!鈥?and NO... they don't give a rat's a**!!!


I hate what is going on more then you could ever know but nevertheless it is going on it has been and it has become so wide spread that it's all over the internet. It's not on tv and radio because the fed gov said no and the internet is not yet fully restricted.


FYI... Yahoo Answers and Craigslist are full of dcyf/ cps and things are often restricted. Facebook is how a lot of parents are finding there children and they'll be restricted soon I'm sure. Go myspace it's better anyway. Look up Alex Jones he seems to have a clue.


GBWY, IYTWYSYA...
If nothing is wrong then STOP WORRYING.If they get a tip that a kid is being abused or neglected, they HAVE to investigate.If they find nothing, they move on.Don't sweat it.When the allegations are found to be untrue, they will see that it was a phony call.
just from reading that it appears you may have been through a lot as a child, but most of your problems are of your own making and that you've done little to change your situation and instead are living day to day hoping things will change magically, which they won't. things won't get better unless you make changes, and all the excuses in the world you're making now won't change a thing or make a bit of difference.





perhaps it best you put your children up for adoption, or into state/foster care until you get back on your feet and remove yourself from the situation you say brought you so much pain and added to your need for counseling. but your complaints just don't add up, sorry.
it sounds like you have nothing to worry about


no drugs not drinking and dont hit ur kids they will see that all the allegations were untrue and try not to be all nerves because they will think something is up


if you can get some child support for ur kids and save any kind of money to get ur own studio good luck sorry ur life is hard at the moment time heals keep ur head up :o)

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Guys please help and tell me - how do i play hard to get?

how do i play hard to get and flirt without being a prick tease, how do i seriously play the hard to get game in a healthy way to keep a new guy i meet interested in me, how do i turn him on with this and drive him crazy in a fun and eventually rewarding way???? thanks for your pointers and for your honestyGuys please help and tell me - how do i play hard to get?
playing hard to get is not really what you want to do as the key word is playing and in relationships you need to be more honest that way you will get a more honest relationship returned ....Guys please help and tell me - how do i play hard to get?
hmm...just kinda flirt with him but dont hang with him or anything
stare then look away
this is hard for a lot of people but occurs mostly naturally



to make the guy intrested, just tease him a little bit maybe. Hang out with him, but dont be too easy on him



DO NOT let him read you. Girls who have opened themselves like a book to me have always been too wasy and it wasnt a fun relationship.

You gotta add a little mystery. Tell him stuff about you but make him start up the conversation once in a while



most importantly, practice. The more experience you have, the easier it is

How can I play hard to get?

I wanna play hard to get with this girl that i'm interested in. I'm a guy. Any ways I can go about doing this?How can I play hard to get?
why?



OK...but sounds stupid to me...here's wut you do...ignore her for a few days.How can I play hard to get?
Just be seen as a guy with options, don't be just another guy. Have her believe you can get any girl you want.



Start flirting and speaking with many other girls. She will see that other girls like you, and will be challenged to see if you like her over those other girls. Even though you are just speaking to these other girls just to make friendships.



Once you get her, it doesn't mean you have to stop talking to other girls, remember they are just your friends. Having lots of girls that are friends is pretty good thing to have.
playing hard to get doesn't work fool.
Don't be pathetic
Throw away all signs of dignity and intelligence, and you'll be halfway there.
hard to get doesnt work well for guys. but, you can try giving her cheese
I hate these love games. My advice: don't play hard to get! If you like this girl, then just be honest with her and stop messing around. She could take this the wrong way and think that you don't actually like her, then find herself another guy and then you're screwed and the joke's on you.
Easy dont be the nice guy and your totally set.
no!

dnt play hard to get

she'll think u dnt like her!

DUMASS!! she'll also think ur a skank

JUST ***** ASK HER OUT GOD DAMMIT
act gay. that shouldn't be to hard for u.
if your a guy, dont. girls are sensitive and when a guy is playing hard to get he just seems like a player. girls want full attention. which will attract her to you more. charm her. it will be sure to work.
If you like her what's the point in playing hard to get?



I've played hard to get with guys before and it just wastes time. You should just go for it!
just be urself dude, if u play hard to get, you will push her away ;]
Talk to her mates more than her
If the girl really likes you.. then it will have a chance of working but.. that mostly works for girls.. in the girl eye it shows u not interested... and that u think she is not attractive at all. or just ur just gay dont do it man..
Sure, play hard to get by all means with a girl that you are interested in, ended up is really ';hard to get her';. You are a man, why do such a childish behaviour. If you like her, just tell her.



Still cannot see any reason(s) why you want to play hard to get.
No dude don't do that it won't work. You will end up still single, a sad and crying girl and a few guy who want to beat the shi* out of you. Girls are sensitive. Be nice and a gentleman.
If you are a college kid, try all these games and that will help you mature and learn the skills of dating etc.



If you are interested in a girl, you should be honest and make conversations with her and start to flirt. Playing hard to get etc are just games which seem childish once you are in love. Of course I am not asking you to just be very wussy, but be independent and confident. If she likes you the way you are, why change??



The best way to improve your chances are that think ';What if not this girl?';. Not much lost. If not this girl, another will follow. Don't be scared of rejections and have choices in your life. Your life, you call the shots. In short, be normal and keep enjoying life rather than thinking about playing hard to get. If she likes you, she will come. If not, some other girl. If she shows interest , grab the opportunity and let her know that you care for her and you can be her potential true lover.

How to make this guy at church want to go out with me?

So, I have liked him about a year and 1/2. I know he wants what he can't have so I want him to think I hate him. Or Play Hard to get. What do teen guys like in a girl. Alot of people say I am amazingly beautiful so looking good isn't a problem. But the worst part is I am 6 months younger than him and he thinks going out with a younger girl is weird. So how can I make him like me?How to make this guy at church want to go out with me?
Don't play hard to get. That will get you no where and any decent guy will run faster than Usain Bolt.How to make this guy at church want to go out with me?
You can't MAKE someone go out with you.
well unless he likes dating older women.....becuase six months theres nothing wrong with that. But make sure its love not lust one of the seven deadly sins....
you don't want him to think you hate him. That'll just make him not want you. Playing hard to get might also be tricky for you, because that might lead to him hating you. If you really like him, then you'll show him you do. Be flirtatious, but don't overdo it. Make sure he knows you're interested, and then it's his move. If he doesn't respond, then you know it probably won't ever happen. If he does respond, then you can come back here and ask for your next move ;)



As for being younger, there's nothing you can do about that, but it'll get better as you get older. Trust me ;)

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Is he playing hard to get and how should I respond?

I met a man at a party last night and we got along very well, he took down my number and only texted me tonight at 8pm and simply said 'Hey, it was nice meeting you last night-kyle*' what is up with that?



P.S. he is quite a bit older than me; when we chatted last night he said he'd be right back but never came back...



What is up with this guy, is he playing hard to get? and how should i respond to his behaviour?

I know i'm reading way into this but i really don't want to mess up any future possibilities with him so please help me here! thank youIs he playing hard to get and how should I respond?
if he wasnt interested he wouldnt have txtd you but you are stressing this way too much , if this is just now that you guys just met imagine if you guys date and he doesnt pick up your call one night, you need to chillIs he playing hard to get and how should I respond?
He isn't playing hard to get. He's simply not interested. :/
maybe he wanted to see if u would text him back, he could have lost his phone or anything like that. if he is like 5 yr.s older that should be ok it has been said guys 5 or more years (not too older) relaiton ships sshoul wokr and the woman has to be samrt

How long do you have to play hard to get after he falls in love with you?

I'm dating a guy, we knew each other years ago and have just recently got back in touch and the chemistry is off the charts. Yeah, we've already slept together and he is already acting like he loves me, like doing a lot of cuddling, kissing, touching my face gently and stuff. So I'm wondering do I still need to play hard to get? I keep hearing men love a challenge, etc. etc., but I don't want to play these games, I just want to relax and enjoy myself. So what do I do? Do I still make him chase me or can I relax now?How long do you have to play hard to get after he falls in love with you?
If you think you may have found the guy for you, why would you ever think of playing a game to frustrate him.

From what you say, it's evident that he has some kind of feelings for you.

The thing now, is to develop the relationship at all levels, not just physically, but intellectually.

Good luck.How long do you have to play hard to get after he falls in love with you?
forever...that's the only way to hang on to a guy...they ONLY know how to play games they are not deep thinkers orcaring individuals...they are concerned mostly about having sex with you (and others)...do yourself a favor....look at a male dog and you have a similar animal in a male human....look at it that way and don't expect too much, then you will never be hurt by it........

**EVERYONE** Do you ever feel like you FALL hard in LOVE too often?

I have been wondering if there is literally something wrong with me. It is just recently, whenever a guy is 'nice' I get the warm fuzzies. I have dated quite a bit in the past and there is always that same pattern... we both fall in love but i fall in love FASTER and HASHER.



A couple days ago this old lady tripped and fell in the park and this average bloke and I both ran over to help her up. He is a real gentleman. We have been on quite a few dates now and I am officially his girlfriend. But... im overwhelmed by emotions already.



For some reason I fall hard for guys too quickly. And its hard to HIDE it when you play hard to get. BUT if I throw myself at men, they don't bite and move onto the next.



Does anyone else feel this way? How do I prevent myself from falling in love too quickly ... I don't want my heartbroken again. Please share advice.**EVERYONE** Do you ever feel like you FALL hard in LOVE too often?
i fall very fast and ive talked to a few people, and i found out what it is,

well ive lost my mom at a young age and didnt have that comphort i needed i was a mommas boy and didnt ever get close to my dad, anyway. almost every realationship ive been in in just 3 or 4 weeks i thought i knew wut love is. but when we broke up i was cruched and still i feel like shes the one but i know shes not shes not even that good of a person but she gave my the slightest bit of comphert ,

maybe your like this also, i still cant overcome it, i want to love and for someone to love as much as i do so bad i would give anything

and that why i think i fall, and possibley you too**EVERYONE** Do you ever feel like you FALL hard in LOVE too often?
You are in love with being in love. Try being by yourself for a while.
you just seem to confuse love with intense like...and infatuation it's natural to get all ,as you put it ';warm and fuzzy'; from being treated nice or being around someone who seems different give it time....don't rush it....if it's real it doesn't need to happen in a short time frame....look at love as a marathon not a sprint
its a natural let it be...i wouldnt mind havin a girl like dat so dont reali see ur problem...not point in playin hard to get anyway i hate girls like dat
I have the same problem... Sometimes I start questioning whether it really is true love because I get 'that' feeling after just meeting someone quite often... Maybe what you're feeling isn't true love or maybe you and I are just very lovable lol.
DON'T DREAM OF WHAT THEY CAN BE LIKE AND THINK ABOUT WHAT THEY ARE LIKE DUE TO FACTS. PEOPLE WHO DAYDREAM ABOUT THEIR CRUSH ARE ONLY FULFILLING A CHARACTER OF THEIR FANTASY.
By forgetting you fall in love often and faster. Try to wait till someone falls in love with you and then you let it happen.
I have the same problem. but ive figured out that it isnt really love...its well i guess you could say puppy love...well for me anyways...i would find a guy go on a few dates and have a feeling that we would be together for a long time..then id start to be around him a lot and after i learned pretty much all i could about him i would get tired of him...and we would both fall out of love..so i say...starting off as friends is always best...dont rush into anything...u may not think that u are rushing but you prob are...i learned the hard way...
Is it possible for you to fall in love--but not act on it? Feel the feelings and emotions and go ga-ga. Let those feelings bubble and make you dizzy without acting on them. Then, at the same time, realize those are important but not hugely substantial things and go on about vetting the guy and looking for deal-breakers. (Being willing to help a person is in trouble IS a very good sign though. And, to answer your question, everybody falls in love at least every now and then.)
why are you doing this to yourself? playing hard to get is the best thing a girl like you can do never feel sad when guys reject you when you throw yourself 2 them. maybe they are not meant 4 u that's why. i think you should wait for the right moment the destined guy will come your way.goodluck.

I play guitar by ear but the guy I jam with plays by books. How can I get him to develop an ear for music?

I have been playing for about 15 years now. I know my scales, arpeggios, modes, chords and other music theory. But if I hear something, then I can find the notes on the fretboard and play it because I have perfect pitch. I can also create songs just by finding what sounds right on the fretboard. I can figure out which notes belong in a scale (or don't belong in a scale) just by listening. I can sing good too. But my friend is different. He can only play someone else's music that is in books. He plays it over and over until he memorizes it. But he never really just lets loose and jams or improvises. He can't because he can't figure out on the fly what sounds right or what doesn't sound right. His singing is poor and he sings in the wrong key. He doesn't understand how I can hear something and then instantly play it. I can't really figure it out either and that's why it is hard to jam with this guy because I can't really explain how or why I have this ability.I play guitar by ear but the guy I jam with plays by books. How can I get him to develop an ear for music?
Make sure he's relaxed and just encourage him. I had the same problem, but I didn't try to be creative because I had no idea if the note I played next would sound good. Make sure he knows his scales and just tell him to make some random riff up in a scale. Once he creates one solid piece of music, he'll start to open up and be more creative. If you can, a drummer, a drum machine, or a metronome would help, that's how I learned.I play guitar by ear but the guy I jam with plays by books. How can I get him to develop an ear for music?
Find someone else to play with. If you're just jamming, why does it matter?
Give him 15 years to catch up. Some got it, some don't. If you feel the music, you can hope to know the instrument enough to play by ear, but without that feeling in your heart, the best musician can only learn the moves by reading it. You cannot make your friend do more than he feels. He could probably become a good drummer. Every drummer I ever met started on another instrument.



If you want to jam with someone who anticipates your every musical flow, get a multitrack recorder and a drum machine.

How do you play hard to get? -a girl who needs help with guys...her first time dating?

hey...i thought...how do you play hard to get? and does it work? i need help! i have only had a bf in 5th grade....please help me!How do you play hard to get? -a girl who needs help with guys...her first time dating?
dont do hard to get, it just makes them think that ur not interested, and they lose hopeHow do you play hard to get? -a girl who needs help with guys...her first time dating?
You are too little to be worrying about such things.
No, it does not work and it's not appreciated.
playing games is stupid.
OMG! DON'T PLAY HARD TO GET! no one will like you except players
The only way to have a ';real'; relationship, is to be yourself, ';games'; always end, with a winner and a loser, don't they?
only works with extremely good looking guys who can get any girl they want but want a challenge and get turned on by pursuing a girl who is hard to get.
someone flirts with you dont flirt back

How to play hard to get when you have a boyfriend?

I have a boyfriend and well he wants me to switch things up. he told me ';I seriously want you to play hard to get';. and Well, I for one am sick, i mean SICK of ME calling HIM all the time and him not coming to ME. that is what i want more than anything else. I saw him sunday and I haven't picked up the phone to call him since. I'm wondering if he is even going to call me by this weekend. Is this what you do to play hard to get? Or should I have said i was going to call Tuesday and then not called? so then he'd be thinking about me? Does he call you to make plans and then you see if you are free or not because you might be hanging out with one of your guy friends to kind of make him want you more? I don't really understand the rules or ways anyone plays hard to get. Because I have teased him but then after a while it just annoys him and i don't think that is playing hard to get. help!!!How to play hard to get when you have a boyfriend?
You should be careful. Playing hard to get means you are making ways not to accept his invitation and making him think what you really felt for him. Its like being mysterious is some ways but that does not mean he have to be gone for some time. If he wants you to play hard to get then he should be courting you or he should woe you, never leaving your side and giving you everything you need. If he is busy with something else and he wants you to do stuff on your own, he probably want a cool off or a break up...think about it.How to play hard to get when you have a boyfriend?
you should dump this guy cuz he's playing games. find a guy who wants to be with you just as much as you want to be with him. good luck!
You should have said that you MIGHT call on Tuesday, then not. Or casually ask about doing something during a time that you definitely know he is busy.



What you want to do is not lie above all else. So don't say that you will do something and then not do it. Simply suggest that you might do them. Or talk about something that sounds nice to you that you might want to do, but don't follow it up by making plans (or any definite plans) to do it. Pretend that you are interested in something, but don't carry through on doing anything about it.



The thing about playing hard to get, which you might not like, is that you are dropping hints and clues which he may not pick up on, so he might not respond as he should or as you might hope. So normally you shouldn't play hard to get or other games because it can lead to misunderstandings. But since he wants you, then if you are willing then go ahead. I hope it doesn't create any problems for the two of you.
You need to find a guy that isn't in to playing games!
This is definitely different but guys get turned on by this-Its hard but I wouldn't call him, wait for him to call and for the first couple times tell him you are busy and cant go out with him. Once I told a guy that and showed up where he was but I had a guy friend with me(of course my boyfriend knew the guy friend so no fight would start) and that drove him crazy. Long story short I ended up going home with my boyfriend.The main thing to play hard to get is not to seem available but be available.
Hello! Is anybody home? Hard to get means he chases you. If he ain't chasin', he ain't playin', with you that is. You want to know for sure? Go out and get some. You can bet your sweet, not so bright behind that he is.
It's not that great to be obsessed with a guy, no...



However, think about this -- if he doesn't want to spend a lot of time with you and doesn't call you that often, maybe he's not ready for a big committment...



Perhaps he was too chicken to tell you this?



Maybe it would be a good idea to set some personal goals for yourself (just small things) to work toward for YOUR OWN satisfaction? Life life for YOU not others... find a hobby, spend time with friends and get out and do other things besides waiting for some dumb guy.
If you already have a boyfriend I dont see how you can play hard to get when you already have him.

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Just dress up into a pretty babe and dont give him too much attention,that will teach him a lesson...lol
Lord I HATE crap and games!! once your in a relationship knock the crap off and act like an adult. he needs to grow up and you need to look for someone who isn't a butt hole.
You should not put yourself in a situation of which you are not comfortable. If his games annoy you, then you need to tell him that you want a relationship that is free of his games. If you submit to his rules, you might consider finding out what the rules are. However, the way I am reading your question, you need to be honest with him. You need to stand up for yourself and state that this is not the type of relationship I want.
Once you tell him you don't want anything to do with him he might chase you.
wait baby wait .

or it was not me

Does this guy fancu me or playing me?

Does this fancy me or just playing me?



This guy right, I told him on 2 drunken occasions i like him, lol one time saying hey u and me shud do missionary style back in june at a party.

we get along really well, constant talking teasing but thing is i do like him alot...but with me the strategy has changed i dnt ask that guy out i wait for him to ask me



i can wait a whole yr and he dnt...cos if i ask him its a win loose situation, i cud get rejected, however if he asks me out then i know its a win win cos i like him to to you see.

i tease him, flirt with him always shakes me hand or pokes at me, i play hard to get.



On wednesday outta the blue he comes to the till next to me, both work at a supermarket and goes hey kira cheer up. i sed i am, im thinking, he then takes the mick how i was saying it

and goes wot r u thinking bout, i go stuff, then he teased with me alot more, then suddenly kept saying hey kiran open your eyes again twice. He then scanned this item. a blouse and shows it to me and goes this looks nice on yu, got one of them, i sed yeh, i wear em with a pencil skirt then carried on talking. Then he said something else like hey kiran u know they gonna start taking pictures of you and me

from the camera, then said hey kiran, they gonna take picture of you cos ur the best look girl in the store, then i said wot they gnna take a picture of ur backside cos u ave a sexy back

then the lady customer i was serving goes, i think he likes youuuuuuuuu, i sed naaa, lol and laughed and she goes cos ur pretty





oh yeh, i told him how me and my friend sharon gnna go xmas shopping, he goes oh kiran thanks for inviting me i thort u n me were a team, i said yehh...oh u can come you know, he goes yeh ok jus ring me yeh, he then goes hey kira, open your eyes



then after i finished my shift, i went upstairs to check the Chelsea FC football score, hes sitting there eating his pasta, lies how chelsea are loosing getting me riled up till i found he was jokin, then chatted more, he then goes hey kiran u know i tease you alot cos u went a **** uni, i sed oh i thort u teased me cos im vunerable, he says do ppl tease you n i sed yeh, he said u need counselling, here come and sit down

and talk i go wot...with an alcoholic..I just tease around how he's a drinker lol, he chokes on his food with laughter then goes oh ur finished, i sed gnna walk it home at 9pm...my parents were out so i walked it home wednesday, and i go why u concerned for my saftey, he goes yeh I am, lol then last words he sed kiran open your eyes



i briefly bumped into him today he did say open your eyes, i sed in return hey maybe u shud open ur eyes. I mean he keeps saying open your eyes all the time....what does this mean? What does all of it mean?Does this guy fancu me or playing me?
He is playing you by fancying you.

He is fancying you, and playing you.

He will play you.

Does this guy fancu me or playing me?
Maybe you need to open your ayes and tell him how you feel about him. what is the worst that can happen? if he doesn't feel the same..well you ll be able to go on and find someone who does. But i really do think he does want you but maybe cant get it out or worried that you wont feel the same about him.
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open your eyes as in look whats in front of you. ie him. He wants you to notice him and ask him out or summin
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What makes a player a player?

How do you not care and not get your heart into a person? I am tired of caring, getting my heart strung along, and getting all hung up over guys I finally allow myself to fall for. They stick around long as I play hard to get or when they can't have me, but then as soon as I am down to Earth with them, honest, and real, poof they are gone and don't care anymore. How can I not care and just play guys and just have fun?What makes a player a player?
Unfortunately, most guys are just interested in the sex then maybe a relationship later. When you open up, you drop the text of mystery which attracted them in the first place. If you want guys who honestly care, don't sleep with them until they are good friends...only it must be mutual.

If you want sex, almost any guy will go for it. Guys do not view sex as commitment...only physical pleasure. To get somebody to go beyond that you must get inside their head. Just don't reveal your intent until you have won the game yourself. Then have some fun!What makes a player a player?
idont no
go for the nerdy ones then.
Quality Women=A Player



Quantity=Man-whore
being a player means u have to be a insensitive slut.



look at ne proper example u can find....
have no heart. turn into an air head. screw everyone you meet.



Why would you wanna do that though? The guys that are worth it share your intrests and won't bother chasing you around either. That's a game they're not down to play. Look around at the guys you have in your life now. Any seem worthwhile? Perhaps your standards are too high, the best guys are in the places you never look.
Maybe the problem starts with you PLAYING hard to get. You don't seem to real or ';down to earth'; if you start out playing. Just be yourself to start with and maybe you will attract a different kind of guy.
okay see here's the thing, playing guys isnt actually that fun, i think we'd all rather be in a meaningful relationship than be going through guy after guy. but if you really need a break from the seriousness of it all and just wanna have a bit of fun then go clubing or something. As much as i hate to admit it, it's a lot easier to meet and talk to people when you're drunk lol.

As for not careing about people. Obviously careing is just a part of who you are, and it's a good thing, sure it makes things like this harder but careing is a sign of being a good person and you can't really go wrong with that. i think you just need to remember that when you enter into a relatioonship you are taking that risk in getting hurt, that kinda comes with the deal, and you will get hurt more often than not, it's just supposed to get easier though it does still suck.

And about them only wanting you when they can't have you, i''ve been there MANY times and it stinks! it's absolutely horrible, you probably wonder why they only like the fake you and not the real you and then you wonder if there's something wrong with you. DON'T! there's not boys are boys and teenage boys are the pitts! on a general scale they're only into brief relationships and any sign of seriousness scares the **** out of them mainly cuz of their own fear of commitment, (and just to make it clear im not anti-boys, im just being truthful lol =D) it's got nothing to do with you. What i did was just take a step back, i mean boys aren't a necessity, try waiting a while just have fun being single or maybe try looking for a different type of guy than you normally would go for, maybe they won't be so commitment-fearing.

cheer up, hope this helps =D
How can you not care? It depends on the value you put on your feelings of love, respect, and honesty. If you could devalue these things you too can start acting like a ';player';, you also have to good at raisng and lowering the value of these things on a regular basis. Think of only yourself and what you have to do to get what you want. Then do what people expcet of you, and act like you care about more than yourself and you can have nirvana. That is it. You are in.

The effect of all of this is lonliness, depression, and exile.

So that's how you can do it. Two players playing each other can bring an eye opening thing. But they say you can't play a player. I'm sure I don't know how that goes, but some people like to be played and they are really players who do not know what they are. Those people are what keep the players out there and getting better at their game.

WHY DO GIRLS PLAY HARD TO GET?

To me it makes no damn sense. I was just sitting w/ a friend today having a conversation and he was telling me about how he chases women, gets turned down and stuff, persists and soon wins them over. He calls this ';playing the game'; and even called it ';the good stuff.'; Excuse my french but FUKC that! If I approach a girl and she shows no interest, to me, I say the hell with it. Yet again, this could be the reason i'm 18 and never had a girl/sex/anything.





I've known sum girls that I 100% (with proof) knew liked me but rejected me. Of course, I just listened and no longer pursued.





MY QUESTION DOES NOT JUST PURTAIN TO ME BUT IS A GENERAL QUESTION OF WHY GIRLS PLAY THESE STUPID GAMES AND WHAT THEY ARE ATTEMPTING TO ACCOMPLISH BY THEM? Even girls I talked to told me that they like to play hard to get and like persistent guys. WTF. If u like him, date him. Why the silly games?WHY DO GIRLS PLAY HARD TO GET?
Personally, I hate to play silly little games. The guy I like at the moment has liked me for months now, has just found out that I like him and is now playing hard to get to find out just how much I like him.





Girls need the sense of security - just like the guy I like. They need to know that a guy likes them enough to chase them. So they play hard to get as a little test. You should let them know that they are now too old to be playing these middle school games and that you won't run after them.





Good luck. :)WHY DO GIRLS PLAY HARD TO GET?
Its nature human nature, its on our traits we need a male that fight for us, and also its the way it is. Sorry Men do that too





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because they want to be wanted
that's just how girls work.


we like being the center of your attention, and if you play easy to get, then that's not that fun. i'm being honest as a girl, so yeah.


obviously to you, it's not ';fun'; when we do that, but then again we girls don't want to be called ';easy-to-get'; either cuz you know there are plenty of jerks out there too who just want to nab girls to look like some kinda pimp.


so you can say for the average girl, we're being catious, but also relishing the attention from you lollll.


or well that's what i think but i try not to play ';games';. i just try to get to know the guy...
girls these days man, there scarin me bro there scarin me


dames need to stop with that mess, thinkin they the Sh*t when they aint
I agree. I guess some of us just like to see if you like us enough that you're willing to work for us. It's twisted. I don't do it. I hate girls that do. They're obnoxious b*tches.
Well now, guys play hard to get as well...and I'll tell you one thing...sometimes the harder someone is to get, the more we want them. In my experience, I have generally found that guys try harder to win my affections over when I play hard to get...and it's not always such a game. I don't ever plan to just give myself over to a guy just based on looks, I think I'm worth the challenge...what kind of guy wants a girl who is easy - unless he just wants a one night stand or is the type of guy that likes to dominate...I know I for one don't want to be with a guy like that.
they think that it'll last longer if you have to chase what you want.i'm a girl so i should know
Some of us haven't grown up yet... we just like the attention... at least I did. I grew up..well not really.. i'm now in a relationship with a pot head, I just have feelings for him... I'm trying to get myself to leave him though, and I'm pretty sure it will happen soon... I'm trying ok?! lol
aww hun u will never understand us will u, lsn the reason we play hard to get is cuz we wanna know if u guyz really like us not all guys are truthful and faithful as tehy say so we play hard to get to know if u will hang on and to know if u really love who we are and not just tryin to get us in bed, ry goin for her hang on the prize will be that u get who ya wanted :D
You know I used to wonder the same thing. But I think the reason why they do is to see if we guys have any confidence. Confidence is really good in a person. We got to have the balls to do/ask for things.
Some girls think that if they are too ';easy'; to get, then guys won't be interested. This is true, in some respects. Guys don't necessarily want promiscuous girls. But some girls take the ';playing hard to get'; idea too far, and make themselves unapproachable.
they play hard to get because its sometimes fun and it shows if the guy really is into u.... cuz if they give up then we kno that they just wanted to get in are pants!! since u walk away and say hell with it the girl knows ur just playing around and not looking for a serious relationship... sooooo.. get a girl drunk then **** her cuz then u wont b a virgin anymore very simple hahahahhaha!!
You're not wrong in the action of stop pursuing her. If she says no and you stop, it is then her turn to make the move to get you.


However, this ';game'; is not what happens after you ask them out, but BEFORE. The ';Game'; is actually the courting actions (flirting) you do before you ask her out. You slowly make moves towards her, suggesting that you like her but maybe not, and she does the same. Finally, when one discovers he/she likes the other, then they make the move, and then the final move goes towards the other, to see if they will catch it.





However, the girls you seem to be hitting on either are very shy, or very high maintenance. I think shy. If you really like the girl, you should commit at least a bit, and pursue her a bit after. After there are signs of immediate rejection and not wanting to be near you, then you should stop. Shy girls tend to need about.... 3 chances before they accept.





High maintenance girls play hard-to-get (A different sort, where after you tell them you like them they go all happy-diddly and pretend they don't like you but keep seducing you) so that you commit much more than you need to them. They are bad.








In the end, when you find the right girl, then she won't be like this. Usually when you ask them out, they will say yes and through the course of dating will learn more about you, which would be much easier.


The right one will turn up, you just have to have the patience and happiness to wait knowing that she will be there.





Good luck.
Girls.. Girls...Girls... we want them yet they give us headaches.. very unpredictable and hard to understand. That is woman's nature. Live with that fact or just be gay. The female species are so mysterious...
Dude your a ****** loser! its cool thoug the best thing you can do is play with your self or go out and do a sport.n e ways are u serious? if your are serious dude get some HELP!
Well... up until now... i gave every guy a chance with me. But my last relationhip, maybe i was too easy i dunno... we dated for 6 days and that was it. (no sex, we just fooled around) So from now on, i wont be easy... just hard to get. Some go over board with it thoe.


Guys want what they cant have remeber
Silly games are for silly people. Maybe ask for time to think, but not that dirty way- excuse my words also! They don't understand feelings, those who play games with it.
they want to be wanted and have you pursue them because they dont wanna seem to easy. it makes them feel better about themselves. some just want to see how bad you really want them. just playing mind games, petty and childish, i know, that's females for ya.

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Advice regards this women our past future and present and our family please help?

we keep meeting having dinner etc etc she asked me round to her home we had drinks etc etc im 33 shes 30 and we have a 17 month old baby we split up in jan and never talked for 17 weeks now we talk as freinds go for dinnners with the baby etc etc i ask can we try and it went from a no never....4 weeks ago to i dont know then to a i dont feel how i did ..to im not sure etc etc



but when we are toghter we luagh talk have fun...what can i do what do people think am i wasting my time is she playing me also yestoday we spend a few txts her saying no we cant and no to us getting back toghter. but then all of a sudden out the blue at 9 pm says why dont you come down for a drink but you cant stay here .....shes going hot and cold what do you guys think????



i want to kiss her but dont want to spoiil anything then this morning i get a txt saying it wont happen i dont feel comfy round you so what can i do what should i do ?? iwant to ask her to marry me what do you think ?? and its gone from this to now no contact again no txts calls ask to meet for dinner nothing ??? shall i give up on her then she tells me she doesnt love me but wait....then yestoday we go shopping again meet up with our baby have fun have dinner i make her luagh ask her if maybe some time she would like to go see a movie....to which she smiles and says maybe..then as we leave she lets me give her a kiss any clues to whats happing people....also on the way home we swap flirty txts and i say did you enjoy our day and she said yes but nothings changed ????? any help sorry its long Also i ask her what made you decide that you didnt miss us that you didnt want our loving family back on track and she said cause i dont love you i ******* hate you ???? why is she such a hard *** but she goes from nice to going out to no conatct again with baby or nothing just calls me names like loser and wanker again ??? and then today she tells me she want no contact anymore shes changed her mind everything via a solicter from now on....so shes stopped our dinners our meets our freindship and seeing the baby again. shes also said that one more txt from me and she will get a injunction on me why is it this women only 5 months ago wanted to marry me have more babies with me and now this. and also she know makes no contact has been told by the police to not contact me and im not to do the same again so know we have nothing no contact no freindship what is happing and what should one do AND TODAY SHE RINGS ME AND SAYS I CANT GET ANYMONEY FROM MY BANK THEY CLOSED MY ACCOUNT AND I HAVE MONEY SO ME BEING ME I GAVE HER 200 POUNDS AND SHE SAID THXS AND THAT WE CAN BE FREINDS AND I CAN SEE MY BABY ALSO SHE SAID SHE JUST DOES NOT FEEL HOW SHE DID ABOUT ME ...HOW CAN I CHANGE THAT AND THEN TODAY SHE SAYS THANK YOU FOR THE MONEY BUT YOU MUST MOVE ON I ASKED COULD I POSTA LETTER ASKING FOR US TO BE FREINDS AND STUFFF AND SHE WOULDNT GIVE ME THE LIGHT OF DAY SHE WAS NO NO WHY AGAIN ANY HELP PLEASE ??? ALL I WANTED TO DO WAS BOOK A NICE HOL TAKE US AWAY AND FALL IN LOVE AGAIN



we where toghter and lived toghter for 3 yrs and our baby is 18 month old can she have post natel depo at this point and yes she has lost weight was on derprssion tablets crys some timesAdvice regards this women our past future and present and our family please help?
Goodmorning Darling , meeting with the Duke are we.? Whats wrong the medication keeping you from a date ...couldn't find no one eles ! Make sure you tell him the medication,causes Honeybees to sting , loose his temper but today he smiles ! So lets make him smile.Advice regards this women our past future and present and our family please help?
she has your baby and your too cheap to marry her! you are a priick!
she probably met someone else who makes more money and is better in bed shes bored with yu and you need to learn good english
I had post natal depression and it was horrendous. It lasted until my son way nearlly 3 years old. I cried alot, his Dad used to go out alot to the pub and I would treat him really badly saying he was horrible and a total Bas***d for leaving me at home. The next day I was all nice to him, it is probably a hormone inbalance. You need to give her time, tell her you'll be around for her and your baby and all you want is a happy life. Treat her well and be patient, see what happens but be very sensitive. It is hard for a woman after having a baby, your whole life changes, your body changes, you feel insecure and your life revolves around a very demanding little person.



I felt my sons Dad would meet someone else with a better body etc as I felt so miserable about the way I looked, saggy tummy etc. Anyway, I have a little story, I'm sorry this is so long - I went out for a drink with a friend of mine and two men were chatting us up, One said shall we go back to someone's house, I knew what was on his mind. I recognized one and said haven't you got a girlfriend and baby and he said yes but she is miserable, not like you, you are having a laugh. She hasn't been the same since the baby. I told him off and told him where to go, I would never do anything like that to another human, its disgraceful behaviour. I told him she needs love and care and I was the same after my son. Just because someone is at the pub having a laugh doesn't mean they are always like that and don't have bad days or weren't fed up after having a baby etc. I said he should go and look after them both and cheer her up so she can get back to normal and have a laugh again. He always looks sheepish when he see's me now and never speaks to me! What a loser!



I hope you liked my story, just be sensitive and respectful, you sound like you love her alot. Good luck for the future, I hope you two get married and have a good life together with your child. :)
I'd get a paternity test done to make sure you're the father. You mention your child as an afterthought. Your main concern should be the welfare of the child and with both of you as parents that concerns me.

reptiles

How many girls on here REALLY play ';hard to get';?

I, for one, don't have the patience to play those little games or try and hide my interest (or lack thereof) from a guy in order to get him to ';pursue'; me...if I'm interested, and he shows interest in me, I'll be receptive to that. But if I'm not interested, I'll tell him straight up not to waste his time because I'm not a casual sex girl, nor am I interested in a relationship with him.





The thing is, it seems that so many guys think that girls just go around playing hard to get all of the time that I've NEVER had a guy just leave me alone after I nicely told him to leave me alone (not in those words obviously, or it wouldn't be ';nicely). It's freaking annoying when a guy sends you 10 text messages in a day regardless of the fact that you're not responding and, when he realizes that's not working, logs into facebook and starts messaging you on there. I don't really understand what is so difficult to understand about ';no.';





I've never met many girls who thought playing hard to get was cool either, so I don't really know where this idea that the guy should harass the girl until she caves comes from.How many girls on here REALLY play ';hard to get';?
I am a very straight forward person and have 0 tolerance for mind games.How many girls on here REALLY play ';hard to get';?
';How many girls play hard to get'; Few if any at all. If we believe modern cultures image of young women. They have become the sexual aggressors with an appetite equal to that of men, Hooking up, one night stands and emotionless sexual encounters are the new norm for young women.
If you play hard to get you wont get its that simple really.
Amen to that! I completely agree. Unfortunately, I know a lot of women that do it. I've listened to their conversations. They don't call it playing hard to get though. They call it ';not being an easy catch,'; which is just code for ';I'm giving him hell.'; In my opinion, they don't know any other way to keep a man's attention, so they play games so he'll stick around... if he's up for the challenge. Playing hard to get just confuses guys- when a woman say ';no,'; he won't know if it's for real. Personally, I don't have time for all that bs. Most guys know right away if I like them or not.
I completely agree with this





good for you


it's because of all the chicks that do enjoy playing stupid mind games that we get harassed; and guys don't understand when no means no (or when stupid sluts really mean yes)
I don't because if I really like someone I just CANT do it. XD I get all lovey dovey and I just cant pretend to be otherwise. It's just impossible for me. Completely impossible. Nope cant do it.
Me. I always tell guys they ugly.
';I've NEVER had a guy just leave me alone after I nicely told him to leave me alone (not in those words obviously, or it wouldn't be ';nicely).';








THERE is your problem. Women think that dropping hints is ';nice';, and that being direct and to the point is rude.





It is true that many guys have been fed the stereotype that women expect to be pursued, and that a persistent guy is romantic, and that may be why some guys seem reluctant to take ';no'; for an answer (at least not until you said it to them two or three times), but it is also true that men simply don't understand a woman's hints.





Unless you are direct, then you are just leading people on. It is only ';rude'; if you sound angry or impatient. Usually all you have to say is, ';I'm sorry, but I'm not interested';, is all that you have to say. Most guys are too egoistical to chaise after a girl who made it clear that she doesn't appreciate him.
I don't play hard to get, just ignore him, poof gone.





Playing hard and no interest are too different things. A girl needs to cut communication make it clear she's not interested, ignore him. Instead of taking his text giggling, laughing one minute than the next saying I don't like him. Wishy-washy...Make it clear of no interest.
Never. If a guy is into me and I'm not into him, I'll be straightforward and let him know. There have been times when I've been hesitant to get with someone and then later changed my mind and called him; but that wasn't playing hard to get. I really was hesitant, because he was my ex and I wasn't sure if I wanted to get back together with him. Guys, if a girl seems hesitant or that she isn't into you, always assume that she isn't going to change her mind, and don't call/text/email/message her. If she does change her mind, she'll let you know. And if she doesn't, then don't waste your time with her.
I'm too old for those kind of games. Then again, I've been too old since I was old enough to date.
I don't play hard to get.





I am hard to get.
I agree with you completely. It happened to me recently where I had a guy friend who wanted to be more then friends and I really don't want a relationship. He called me a tease and said he didn't want to be friends- I had never tried to give that impression.


He then did what you described, emailed me on facebook, texted me and called me, even came to my house once, for 2 weeks before he left me alone.





I guess it's a case of you want what you can't have and once you have it, you don't want it.


Playing hard to get is childish, its ok if its nothing serious but then it goes too far and peoples feelings get hurt.
They don't leave you alone because you told them nicely. I say it once nicely, but the second time isn't so nice and it tends to stop it. I also don't play games, never have and never will but i';m sure some girls do which leads some men to lump us all together.
In my earlier years, when I was single and liked a guy, I tended to be very competitive with him. That's the closest I've ever gotten to ';hard to get.'; After the first three tries, someone who thinks you're playing hard to get needs a reality check.