Lost and Confused, Need Dating Advice?

We are both 21 and I have been dating this girl for over two months and I have really fallen for her. Weve had some amazing evenings and have so much fun when we are together. She tells me her cheeks hurt when shes around me because she can never stop smiling and says Im such a gentleman for treating her with respect, telling her how beautiful she looks, and remembering all the little things. But after two months, Im the only one that makes an effort to hangout and be together. Ive met her family and her parents love me, but she has not introduced me to any of her friends. About a month into dating, she said to me she thinks she is too young for a relationship which really hurt because it was the day before I planned on setting up a really romantic evening and ask her to be my gf. The dates kept going into what it has become now. We have not talked or seen each other for over a week. I then texted her today and she responded right back saying she misses me and thats where the convo ends once again.



Im really broken up over this, is it worth it for me to continue to ask for evenings to go out knowing that as soon as she leaves my arms I will once again have to plan another time to see each other because she wont. Im being told so many different things by my buddies to do and Im even more confused now. Im too nice and honest of a guy to play hard to get or mindgames, so how do I go about telling her that it bothers me she makes no effort to make time for me when I care so much for her and just want to be with her. Love hurts....Lost and Confused, Need Dating Advice?
Persistance is key !

If you really care about her, show her.

If you just give up, she'll think you didn't care enough to try and do everything you could do to get her.

It sounds like it could turn into something, to me.

So just keep trying. Don't give up on it.Lost and Confused, Need Dating Advice?
I think you should just ask her how she feels. Alot of girls her age are insecure and altho they want to be with the guy, they aren't sure if he feels the same way so they pull back. I think she is very interested in you and she, just like you, don't know where you 2 stand. Tell her you want her to be your gf. But also tell her that you're not sure if she feels the same way because she never initiates dates. Be honest. She will be relieve and you will too.
mary a guy
Sorry for your situation. You have gotten in too deep. Relax about it, if it's meant to be it will work itself out. Spend your time developing your own interests, then you can share them with her if she comes around. If not, you have moved yourself from within the obsession to not thinking about it so much. Have a serious talk with her after you have settled down to the fact that maybe she doesn't care for you on that level anymore. Ask her. The most important thing in a relationship is COMMUNICATION.
Love does hurt.



Don't give up though. Yes, it might hurt, your heart might be crushed and everything, but think about it. Will it be worth it if you end up having her in your arms? I have been in your place, and the thought of pain is completely erased by the good memories that she brings.



Keep planning those evenings, she might be a little confused as well. Then tell her how much she means to you and that you don't want her to leave, you want her to stay.



If she doesn't want to, then just let it go. keep being nice, maybe someday she will come to her senses and something will work.



But don't give up! it's worth the try, with me, I ended up with the girl of my dreams even though I had to work hard to get her.



Best of luck! it will all go alright
Just lay it out and tell her how you feel. The key to a good relationship is communication. She's not a mind reader and assumes everything is ok. If it doesn't work out, just move on. Love hurts, but it won't kill you. Good luck kiddo!
i'm sorry, i don't want to give the wrong advice but do what you think is best. why don't you try calling her up and meet up somewhere? talk about the situation. and remember, it's only been 2 months. you need to slow it down more even if you feel you've known each other for quite a while. believe me, you discover new things about each other even if you've known each other for 3 years or so. keep it casual but romantic. if she's too young to date, fine. go with the flow. remember, your relationship doesn't need a title. if you like her, and she likes you too, that's what matters right now
dont be too nice of a man. you call yourself a man but you act like a girl. lol. j/k. but anyways, you seem pretty sensitive, girls dont need that, they need a man. and if she says shes too young, it can be that also, in which you have to respect it. shes 21 and she wants to have fun. be there to hang out with her and just have fun first. but if you are serious bout this girl then tell her, be honest and have confidence. tell her the last sentence you wrote here. find out why shes drifting away form you. and if she tells you she doesnt wanna be with you then let it go bro. dating game is like fishing. na mean??



HAVE A NICE DAY!!!
well for one..yea love does hurt. secondly, i would suggest that you not play games either. you need to seriously have a talk with her and be completely open and honest about your feelings. tell her you really enjoy spending time with her and like being around her but you feel like she may not feel the same way. you don't want to end up putting your all into this ';relationship'; and then become even more heartbroken when she doesn't reciprocate. just be upfront with her and hopefully she will be upfront with you. tell her you want things to be clear from the get go so there aren't any misconceptions. i hope that helps!
you seem like a nice guy, don't let this girl get you wrapped around her finger. You should just talk to her and tell her that she needs to make some effort if the relationship is to continue. If she doesn't agree to that, then you should pry end the relationship. There's no point in wasting your time with someone who doesn't want a relationship with you. I know its hard but you have to do whats best for you.
you should tell her how u feel, like what u have said. tell her that y she doesn't make any effort to hang out or whatever. maybe she donest want to hangout with u anymore. ';About a month into dating, she said to me she thinks she is too young for a relationship'; i think that is an clue that she want to break up with u or something. it seem that she doesn't know how to tell u that. try to pick up any clue that she want to break up with. i mean if she did liked u and all, she would be making plans with u and all. good luck.
She likes the attention obviously. Plus, she's the one playing hard to get.

If she loves you enough she would initiate a move to see you again. try to decrease your attention and see how she reacts.
You seem like a very sweet guy, you should just tell her the truth and tell her how your feeling, you said it your self your a very honest guy. Im not trying to sound harsh but it's not like if your loosing anything if you tell her how you feel, it sounds like you like her more than she likes you. You are still young and there are lots of girls that would like to go out with a guy like you . Quit waiting around for a girl that doesn't seem so interested in a relationship, she said it her self she's not ready for a relationship. If you really like her and feel like You guys are meant to be together then just tell her that you guys need a break. A BREAK not broken up permanently! In that break you can hangout with friends and see if you really do miss her and if you still want to continue with the relationship. Also in that break it would show your girlfriend if she really wants to be in a relationship or if she jut wants to have friends and not a boyfriend.
Next time she says she misses you ask her when she wants to go out and when the date is set say something like ';i feel like we always do what I want to do, so this time you call the shots.'; This way you are still taking initiative in inviting her out, but its up to her to plan something to do. If she tries to pull the old ';it doesn't matter to me'; insist! Ask her if there's something she always wanted to do, something new to try out? And go with it
I actually just got out of a relationship sort of like this, and my advice is just leave it alone for a while. They say absence makes the heart grow fonder, and at the same time the more you mess with it, the more you are going to get yourself hurt. I know that this is hard to do, especially if you are one of those nice, sensitive guys that do everything within your power to make your girlfriend happy, but it really is for the best. If she likes you then she will try to contact you. If she doesn't, then you have saved yourself a little heartache. If you try to make it work over and over again, eventually things will fall apart and you will get hurt even more. Trust me, I know. I wish you all the luck in the world on this one, beacuse I know how badly a relationship falling apart can hurt.