Why do guys try to play hard to get and how do i get back at him?

My best friend (for a few years) and I have recently fallen head over heels for each other - we were not expecting this at all - we truly care and adore each other but we decided that right now is not a good time in our lives to have that serious relationships we long from each other. He's been STRESSED with financial/schoo/work - as for me too but we're still great friends.





I heard that SOME guys will play hard to get with the girl so that the next time the girl sees them, she'll ';miss him'; and want him more - flirtier. I notice with this guy is that he'll say ';you need to get over me'; yet he'll initiate the moves and his actions show that he REALLY wants to be with me. Then after we'll ';get close';, he'll ';limit'; himself but not completely avoid me. I'm confused - i thought he didn't want a relationship right now - i thought he wanted something serious for later? and why did he say that we needed to get over each other?





What do i do? Play hard to get back and see wht he does?Why do guys try to play hard to get and how do i get back at him?
Its a game, it has been since the dawn of humans. Its not a game of logic, although logic can be a weapon.





Don't think about this too much. Also if you want to be in a relationship just do it. Theres no such thing as the right timing for a relationship.





That ';you need to get over me'; comment- it depends the tone and context in which it is said. It sounds as if he said it without being very serious- that is just playing. Its VERY immature. But there you go, the game of love is often immature.





Don't play anything. You will just twist yourself up. You don't sound like the game playing type. That thing about making people miss you-- I think its only wise to like give people time to think after a date for example- you know if you call the next day it takes the excitement away a little.





Just be straight up. He is probably just insecure about you and hence the game playing. In fact if I were you I would just lay it out for him and be quite earnest. He won't want to play you then and he will take you very seriously as a possible partner. Think about it, do you want someone in the long run who plays games? No its just part of the mating ritual





Good luckWhy do guys try to play hard to get and how do i get back at him?
iv heard that too. some guys try to play the silly game ';hard to get';. most of the guys that i have liked in the past don't play the silly game. i have also heard that they look at the female a lot so then she will start liking them. and that actually does work for me. not on all guys though. but maybe he is trying to resist you with his sentience ';we need to get over each other';
Not worth your hassle. If he's seriously interested in you - he'll get the message and play less hard =\
i say grow up and find a mature relationship
thats it you play the game to .let him have it good
read this: www.sosuave.com. this will give u a glimpse of his mental state. it's a site for men, hod to play games with women. after reading it any man is an open book for me. very very useful tips about those dumb men
Tell him ';I really look forward to the day when we can have a real relationship, because I'll be able to do much more of this.'; Then grab him and kiss him. Then walk away.





THAT will change the game ...
What makes you think you're ready for the hassle he's gonna be. He is obviously impressed with himself, and with you considerably less.





Tell him to cut the crap because he knows he loves the attention. Tell him this train's getting ready to pull out of this station. So, if he's gonna get onboard, he better make up his mind before its too late.
for me, act normal. u know the way u treat him like a friend. coz let say if he is being sweet and u also respond more than that, its like he's making a temp check if u still like him. in some way, u r making urself too available for his comfort. probably he said that line just to confuse u more. just act normal and when he's being overly romantic or way too sweet/flirty ignore it. ignore meaning u dont have to respond on the same way. probably acknowledge the action but no need to act the same way.
Well if it's not going anywhere now anyway, I say let him be a jerk, and if he feels like being nice then be friends. In the meantime, try finding some new BF material-- someone more MATURE. Friend lovers never seem to work out, I'm sorry this is so frustrating... Good luck!!!
Sounds like he is scared of it. Show him it wont bite. Kidding. Really he may be a virgin. Some guys are scared.
Grown ups don't play games. Real men don't play hard to get either. This guy is messing with your head. He probably likes you but I think he thinks you like him a bit more than he likes you so, he's got some control and he's loving it. He can make moves without any expectations from you because that's how he's got it set up.





No man will put off a realtionship (ie sex!) because of work, etc. If they like you, they'll figure out a way to fit the realtionship into their life. That's just common sense. This guy doesn't want a realtionship. He wants to string you along and so far, it's working.





Your best bet is just to keep it on a friend level. Take his advice and get over him. He's saying that for a good reason. Like I said before, he thinks your feelings are stronger for him than his are for you and he's trying to tell you that's he going to let you down. He knows exactly what he's doing so, don't think he's confused.





If you want this stuff to continue, don't change a thing. If you want things to change, you need to put a stop to his fickleness. You can do that by stopping his little moves before they get started. Set up boundaries and keep them.





If you really can't tell him no because you think he'll stop liking you or something, stop hanging out with him altogether. I can tell you, he's not going to wake up one day and decide he wants to be with you. He's already made up his mind and right now, he's just playing with you head. You deserve better than that. He might be a good friend but, he's a lousy person. If he cared for you, he wouldn't be confused and playing games. You either like someone or you don't. He doesn't like you enough to stop being a douchebag so, stop it for him. Find someone who is mature and doesn't play headgames. Good luck!
This guy isn't worth your time, and you're not ready for a serious bodyfriend. Next.