Sunday, November 21, 2010

Hard to get?

Over the summer i became best friends with this guy - and it turned out that he really liked me... Once I started to like him back, and things got a little more serious, it seemes like he started to like me less. One of my good friends told me I should play hard-to-get because guys want what they can't have, and that's why he really liked me at first - cuz he didn't have me. I just wish he would aknowledge me more as someone he's ';dating'; than just ';Friends with benifits'; cuz that's pretty much how it is. I know i shouldn't let this happen, and I may sound naive, but theres just something about this guy that keeps me comming back - I'm head over heals in love with him, and I can't help it. He's my best friend - What do I do?Hard to get?
I'll tell you what the problem is. When you two started messing around, in your mind, you thought this was going to become something. Two people this close don't mess around to become ';Friends with Benefits,'; right? wrong. However, in his mind, he was really thinking ';Friends with Benefits.'; No commitment. No strings attached. You came on strong because you believed he would become more than a friend and this was something great. But when he saw that you really liked him, it scared him b/c he wasn't thinking ';relationship'; and you were. I know b/c I was there too one time. And honestly, this isn't going to go anywhere and your friendship, unfortunately, is over. You can either settle for being his booty call or you can just leave him alone. If you don't leave him alone, then believe me when I tell you, that you will be hurt bad in the long run. If your in love with him now, imagine how you'll feel later.Hard to get?
Your friend is right. You made it too easy for him and now hes losing interest. Its up to you to take it a step back.

But my guess is, there isnt anything you can do at this point to turn him around.
FROM YOUR QUESTION, IT SEEMS HE ALREADY GOT YOU. Is there still something he hadn't got? You may have been lax in giving those ';benifits';.
Men always like the chase, because if it's too easy than they think you are easy. But, if you play too hard to get they might think it's over or not worth their time because it is out of their reach. My advice is to just be yourself, don't make things so complicated.If he is your friend just talk to him about it. And stand up for yourself don't give him everything he wants, you have wants too.
like you said- people want what they cant have- looks like you cant have him! lol! ok seriously- just ask him whats up but dont sound over eager. he's your best friend right? so you should be able to talk to him about anything. at the same time play hard to get, cuz sometimes lonleiness makes the heart grow fonder- but also keep in mind the out of sight- out of mind rule- distance yourself, but not too much. could it also be that your expecting too much from him?
you know whats keeping you coming back....his nonchalant attitude...he's knows you like him so for him the thrill of the chase is gone...i can't tell you what to do but i know what i would do...i would back off a bit and act as if i didnt care...cause the more you seem to be hung up over him the more he's going to treat you like this...dnt you know when you stop caring...that's when they start *good luck*

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