What makes a player a player?

How do you not care and not get your heart into a person? I am tired of caring, getting my heart strung along, and getting all hung up over guys I finally allow myself to fall for. They stick around long as I play hard to get or when they can't have me, but then as soon as I am down to Earth with them, honest, and real, poof they are gone and don't care anymore. How can I not care and just play guys and just have fun?What makes a player a player?
Unfortunately, most guys are just interested in the sex then maybe a relationship later. When you open up, you drop the text of mystery which attracted them in the first place. If you want guys who honestly care, don't sleep with them until they are good friends...only it must be mutual.

If you want sex, almost any guy will go for it. Guys do not view sex as commitment...only physical pleasure. To get somebody to go beyond that you must get inside their head. Just don't reveal your intent until you have won the game yourself. Then have some fun!What makes a player a player?
idont no
go for the nerdy ones then.
Quality Women=A Player



Quantity=Man-whore
being a player means u have to be a insensitive slut.



look at ne proper example u can find....
have no heart. turn into an air head. screw everyone you meet.



Why would you wanna do that though? The guys that are worth it share your intrests and won't bother chasing you around either. That's a game they're not down to play. Look around at the guys you have in your life now. Any seem worthwhile? Perhaps your standards are too high, the best guys are in the places you never look.
Maybe the problem starts with you PLAYING hard to get. You don't seem to real or ';down to earth'; if you start out playing. Just be yourself to start with and maybe you will attract a different kind of guy.
okay see here's the thing, playing guys isnt actually that fun, i think we'd all rather be in a meaningful relationship than be going through guy after guy. but if you really need a break from the seriousness of it all and just wanna have a bit of fun then go clubing or something. As much as i hate to admit it, it's a lot easier to meet and talk to people when you're drunk lol.

As for not careing about people. Obviously careing is just a part of who you are, and it's a good thing, sure it makes things like this harder but careing is a sign of being a good person and you can't really go wrong with that. i think you just need to remember that when you enter into a relatioonship you are taking that risk in getting hurt, that kinda comes with the deal, and you will get hurt more often than not, it's just supposed to get easier though it does still suck.

And about them only wanting you when they can't have you, i''ve been there MANY times and it stinks! it's absolutely horrible, you probably wonder why they only like the fake you and not the real you and then you wonder if there's something wrong with you. DON'T! there's not boys are boys and teenage boys are the pitts! on a general scale they're only into brief relationships and any sign of seriousness scares the **** out of them mainly cuz of their own fear of commitment, (and just to make it clear im not anti-boys, im just being truthful lol =D) it's got nothing to do with you. What i did was just take a step back, i mean boys aren't a necessity, try waiting a while just have fun being single or maybe try looking for a different type of guy than you normally would go for, maybe they won't be so commitment-fearing.

cheer up, hope this helps =D
How can you not care? It depends on the value you put on your feelings of love, respect, and honesty. If you could devalue these things you too can start acting like a ';player';, you also have to good at raisng and lowering the value of these things on a regular basis. Think of only yourself and what you have to do to get what you want. Then do what people expcet of you, and act like you care about more than yourself and you can have nirvana. That is it. You are in.

The effect of all of this is lonliness, depression, and exile.

So that's how you can do it. Two players playing each other can bring an eye opening thing. But they say you can't play a player. I'm sure I don't know how that goes, but some people like to be played and they are really players who do not know what they are. Those people are what keep the players out there and getting better at their game.