How come girls become to play hard to get with guys? Why do they became? Reason?

I don't understand but it really made frustrated, curious and desperate but want to know, whyy?!


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God bless!How come girls become to play hard to get with guys? Why do they became? Reason?
It's annoying isn't it? I agree with rotorhead... it's a form of manipulation





the objective of the game is to get you to chase her


chasing her shows your 'devotion' and how much you admire her


socially speaking, it's also a way of you investing time and effort into her so it stops you from dumping her and going after any other girl





playing hard to get is also a form of social status


it shows that people need HER and she gets an ego boost from it i.e. she's in demand so you need to show your appreciation





playing hard lays the foundation for authority in the relationship - the more you bestow her, the more you are willing to submit to her demands since she can leave you at any time and your invested need in her has already gone deep enough to make you do whatever you can to win her back





playing hard to get can come in various forms:


e.g. choosing another guy over you so you chase and compete over her more


persistent rejections despite what she truly feels


purposely ignoring you or turn away from you - it's an attention winning tactic all amateurs use


delaying contact or be absent from you occasionally - something about absence making the heart grow fonder


pretending things you do doesn't bother her - for the slightly more sophisticated, but it doesn't work all that well





to me, playing hard to get is just as bad as the guys they call 'players' (it's an insult to true players to call pigs 'players'), however they don't see it that way.


The following are the listed bad points about it:


it's dishonest - lack of integrity makes them less attractive, but I dont' think they actually care


it's manipulative - an instant rejection button for those who actually don't put up with it


it sets the relationship off at a bad start - you're throwing things in that would haunt you later on


it stops relationships from forming properly - good relationships don't start like this, stories from grandparents tell plenty


it's immature - you don't play games on things like this


it disrespects guys - as long as they disrespect you, you can not only expect problems in the relationship but they can even cheat on you then blame problems on you as oppose to sharing the blame


shy guys don't get relationships - shy guys who worked so hard to get enough courage and then get shot down because of the power play are innocent in the game; but I don't think they care


genuine guys get shot down or repelled - I don't think they know or even believe me





Those who do it consider these issues to be less than significant, especially when they have the following list of stuff the motivates them to do it:


everyone does it - it's called social conformity, and if you don't do it, you're a social reject which is the equivalent of being branded a loser for the rest of your life


she is scared of rejection - fear makes you do lots of things, no matter how indecent they are


it's how things are done/ it's how things should be - it's not how relationships are actually, scientifically formed, it's just how they copied it from other relationships/western culture thing


it gives them power - after XYZ years of oppression, they say it should be something they deserve. I could say the same thing about gays and ethnic minorities but I don't see them flaunting it.


I want the guy to stay with me - guys are not attracted to girls who play hard to get, it's a byproduct. the thing that keeps them attracted is usually not the technique at all; otherwise it's instant success and there would be no breakups at all


it makes guys want me more - even if it's an ego boost they are looking for, the technique is off. The psychological economics don't match up and I know because I read up on psychology, dating techniques and gender differences for 18 years and I can definitely say the techniques they use do not work


Test your intentions (like most people here said) - apparently, it's the 'only' way to test whether you are the genuine guy you claim you are and whether you are the best guy out there they can get their hands on. They will test you on how you react, behave around them and whether there is congruency in what you say


guys would think differently of me - depends on what sort of guy she is with. I wouldn't consider her easy if she doesn't play hard to get the moment we meet and I wouldn't disrespect or think lowly of her if we sleep on the first date. Some guys follow the opinion of everybody else, some guys would jump to conclusions, some would actually not mind. Different guys might think differently, so it's a bit of a grey area on this one.





The problem is that they are convinced about the techniques and they made it like a personal belief, almost like a religion.





(However, there are times when they are genuinely rejecting you, so you have to beware of those. Guys who get confused with this, can get lawsuits field against them.)





You cannot convince them to think differently and they cannot be persuaded to act differently so don't bother trying (I did it myself). For people who used the same techniques for decades (yes, it's only been that long), you would think they know better. Whenever I get into these conversations, it sometimes just get me angry about everything they are doing wrong and they refuse to even see it. But then again, that's life.





It's a ploy in along winded line of destructive politics that seems to just work against everything we know. The only thing you can do about it is to either use it to your advantage and make them chase you or just ignore it all together.





If things need changing, they will need to figure it out on their own; something we can not do anything about.





Hope this helpsHow come girls become to play hard to get with guys? Why do they became? Reason?
They do it to see how much you realy want them.
um. it really depend.


1. A girl has a bf or busy with life and giving you gentlely that she just not interested but doesn't want to flat out tell you


2. She want to test you. to see if you will take the extra effort to come after her.


3. She is playing with your head even if she not interest in you. It the chase she want you to do to her.


4. She is clueless.
I really don't know
We ';play hard to get'; because we're scared. We have to make sure the guy really likes us for who we are and is willing to keep trying, otherwise it's obvious things won't work out in a relationship because the feelings aren't really there. Sometimes it makes the girls who do this seem confident, but it's really the opposite :-) Every now and then, however, it's because the girl isn't ready for a relationship and is trying to figure out what to do by giving themselves time and making the initial ';we're in a relationship now'; statement come at a later time.
I know I'm completely guilty of doing this and for the majority of the time it's due to insecurity and fear of getting hurt. Sometimes you just need some out right proof that the person you're going to date is full of substance and going to give their all to you.





It's sort of like a dating world initiation to see whether the person you're getting involved with is trustworthy and dedicated to you.





At the beginning it is natural for a guy to chase a girl, that's just human nature...if it continues then I think you have something to worry about. However if you really like the girl your persistence will definitely pay off!! Good Luck!
Girls (and guys) like playing head games because they want to see how much control they have over others. It stokes and strokes their pathetic egos.





I avoid people like that. I never pursued girls who played hard to get. If they were interested, they needed to show it. If they weren't, ditto. I didn't have time for BS games.





Don't waste your time on people who are trying to manipulate you. Playing hard to get is a form of manipulation.
Girls play hard to get because they are testing you. They want to know if you will able to bare with them and they want to make sure that you will never cheat on them and sometimes if you are require to be their man.